Getting Over the Nerves

“Get over it”

I’m not sure how this phrase makes you feel, but to me, it seems like it was our entire former generation’s motto. 

Get hurt? Get over it. 

Breakup? Get over it.

Get bullied? Get over it….

I’m not that person. 

I don’t want you to “get over” your nerves. I want you to walk through them. Our nerves are very real feelings that tell us we have reason to feel afraid or on edge. This can be from a million experiences ranging from abuse that taught us lies about ourselves to ccertain religious  practices that make us ashamed of even having a body. There are culture expectations that take our unique beauty and tell us it’s wrong- that beauty is a one-stop, one-size-fits-all body. Fitting in to any of these categories? So do most of the women I see….pretty much all of them (except  the rare unicorn woman who walks through the door already knowing her worth like some goddess divine incarnate). 

So are you ready?

Take a deep breath. You’ve scheduled your session. You’re probably going to have a couple panic moments that sound something like this- 

‘I don’t do things like this’

‘What will so-and-so think?’

‘I probably won’t even like the pictures’

‘I won’t look as goo as those other women’

These are lies. You can’t let yourself believe them. If you do, you miss the breakthrough. Walk through them and fight them with words like-

‘I am beautiful as myself’

‘I am uniquely beautiful’

‘I am doing this for myself, not to please anyone else’

‘I’m not going to cancel’

‘I’m brave enough to love myself’

I know, it’s still hard and you’re still nervous. I have done the boudoir session and felt the butterflies right before walking out of the dressing room in practically nothing. I know that feeling! I would NOT let you do this without having been vulnerable myself. 

I will be SO excited and encouraging. Which, if we’re being honest, is another important part of walking through nerves. The cheerleaders! The people that say, “I’m proud of you for doing this!” and “Oh my gosh, you’re HOT!”

I don’t  say those things because ‘it’s just my job’. I chose this career because I can see the individual beauty of every woman who walks through my door. Yes, even you 😉

So, don’t get over the nerves. Walk through them. On the other side of your fears is a new, more confident, mentally and emotionally  stronger you. I’m here for the moments that your eyes light up when you realize that you are so uniquely stunning inside and out. And maybe, instead of saying, “I’m nervous”, let’s start saying, “I’m growing emotionally and mentally.” 

Still nervous? No problem. Shoot me a message, book the session, and let’s walk through that mental and emotional growth together. 

When you’re ready, Darlin’,  I’ll be here.